Feminism vs. Pseudo-Feminism: Fighting Demons, Not Men

Not your usual day or week recap, but this is something that bothers me deeply: pseudo-feminism.

Let’s get one thing straight: pseudo-feminism is not feminism. It’s about degrading men under the guise of standing up for women, and that’s not what feminism stands for. Why am I bringing this up? Recently, a well-known psychologist and content creator went viral for promoting toxic feminism. She was rightfully criticized, and honestly, it made sense. The movement that once fought for equal rights is now being misunderstood and rejected by many because of people like those who twist feminism into a gender war instead of a fight for equality.

Ask me how many times I’ve heard women say, “I’m not the feminist type” because they think feminism is about hating men. That’s exactly what happens when the real definition gets lost. Feminism isn’t about bringing men down- it’s about elevating everyone, addressing inequities, and ensuring fairness where it’s been historically absent. Somewhere along the way, people forgot that. And now, pseudo-feminists have turned it into a toxic competition about who’s better.

Look, women have dealt with enough horrors from men that trusting anyone becomes difficult. I get it. I could easily say, “I hate men” because of the terrible stories I’ve heard, but where would that leave me? Forgetting the sacrifices my dad made for our family? Ignoring how my brother looks out for me? Yes, the phrase “not all men, but always a man” hits hard because it reflects reality. But in the process, we end up overshadowing the majority of men who are kind, supportive, and selfless. Trash-talking men is easy. Posting memes about picking a bear over men is easy. But let’s face it- without men and women, life doesn’t work. Deny it all you want, but that’s the truth.

And before anyone assumes I’m speaking from a place of privilege, let me tell you- there are countless women who smile despite their scars, who’ve endured the worst, and still choose to move forward. Even so, they’ll tell you there are men who gave them a world full of love and safety. So, the next time you bash men, remember: it’s not men we need to fight- it’s the demons. Men who uplift and support don’t deserve to be grouped with the ones who destroy.