What If Getting It Was Never the Point?

Well, what I am about to say might be absurd to some, a nuisance to some, and exceptionally eye-opening.

Relax. I’m not going to crack any rocket science theory or say something that’ll make all the hate in the world disappear in a snap, but just be here with me.

Have you ever noticed a pattern like, in life, when the one person who longs for something with all their heart just doesn’t get it
And on the other hand, the one who doesn’t really give a fuck?
They get it handed right into their lap.
Has this ever happened to you?

Well, to me, yes.
And it made me question something deeply.

The Desire Paradox

That "thing" I needed or let’s say wanted, was never something universally essential. It wasn’t a survival need. It wasn’t something the whole world depended on. It was something I wanted. So clearly, life can go on without it.

But then why the hell did I want it so badly?
Why did I feel such an intense longing for something that wasn’t even necessary?

Was the desire itself just an illusion, created for me to feel the pain of not getting it?

Let that sink in.

Is getting the “thing” really the goal?
Or is it feeling what it feels like to want it the real goal?

If getting the thing was really the goal, then why don’t we feel fully content after we do get it?

So maybe, just maybe, the whole point wasn’t to achieve the goal.
Maybe the point was to feel the emotions created by the illusion of wanting it.
Maybe that was the actual journey.

Maya & Astrology

And that’s where the idea of Maya from Hinduism hit me.
It’s all illusion, right?

Now let’s tie that into astrology. Say an astrologer tells you,
"Your married life isn’t going to be great."
What do you think of doing? Maybe some upayas or remedies to change the situation.
But let’s be real, those only work if you have faith.
Faith that they will work.

Hold on to that word: faith.

Because now I want to take you to something deeper, our kundali, our birth chart. It’s said to be the blueprint of our life, built on our past-life karmas. So if someone has a beautiful chart, maybe they did something incredible in their past lives.

But what about when you’re told you won’t be satisfied in marriage?
Doesn’t that make you wonder: is this something tied to your past lives?

Maybe you have unresolved karmic debts with people from those lives.

The Ketu in 7th House Catch

Here comes the twist:
People with Ketu in the 7th house are said to be detached from relationships.
But then, why do they often have such intense desires for love, nurture, and care?

It’s ironic.
You would think someone “meant to detach” wouldn’t crave love.
But they do. Fiercely. Painfully.

And that made me wonder, maybe that craving is part of the karma.
Maybe they are designed to feel that emotional turbulence,
To love deeply and not be understood in return,
To long and ache,
Because that’s how they’re paying off what they owe.

So now,  What Are We?

If all this makes sense
Then who are we, really?

Are we just players in a grand karmic story?
Are we superficial?

Or are we deeply emotional beings, trapped in a spiritual matrix?
Here to feel, to fail, to burn, to rise?

Damn. Makes me wonder about all the things we still don’t even know we don’t know.

The universe is insane.
What goes out, comes back.

Some Conflicting Thoughts

Let me break it down now, everything I’ve said—and also throw in some contradictions that confuse me.

1. The Desire Paradox (again)

Those who chase love, recognition, and success often struggle.
Those who don’t care as much seem to attract them effortlessly.

This matches what Eastern philosophies say:
The more attached we are, the more we suffer.

But then, what about manifestation?

We are told: "Put your energy out there. Visualize it. Believe it. Attract it."

So how do these two things work together?
How can we simultaneously detach and manifest?

How can we want something deeply but also not be attached to it?

2. The Illusion of Wanting

Let’s be honest:
Getting what we want doesn’t truly satisfy us.

Maybe for a while.
Then a new desire hits.
The cycle begins again.

So maybe the desire itself was always the real journey, not the object.

Maybe we were meant to feel.
To crave.
To fall apart.
To surrender.
Not necessarily to get everything.

3. The Birth Chart Perspective

Our birth chart isn't a punishment.
It isn’t a reward either.
It’s a map may be a spiritual GPS of where our soul's been and what it's here to learn.

Like that example again, Ketu in the 7th:
If you overdid love and attachment in a past life, now you have got to detach.
Now, you crave but don’t receive.
Now, you love, but don’t feel understood.
Now, you feel it all, so that the karmic slate gets cleaned.

It’s not cruel.
It’s cleansing, and it will only work in your favour if you truly understand it. Otherwise, your soul will keep on questioning why you didn't deserve it.

Like a fire. A sacred one. That burns not to destroy, but to purify.

So yeah. These thoughts haunt me.
But they also keep me curious and excited.
They make me wonder if maybe we’re not here to figure everything out
Maybe we’re here just to feel it fully, until it all makes sense.

And maybe, just maybe, that’s the point.